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My Writing

I get my best ideas from listening to people. Fortunately, that’s my job.

I like to say that people are my library, and my daily writing practice is a way to discover what’s in it: new ideas, inspiration, wisdom, and a little whimsy for good measure.  As your humble librarian I invite you to check out a new idea every day. No late fees ever.

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Movies with Meaning 4

{a weekly series – guest contributions welcome via email, twitter etc. Do share your ideas}

A reminder of our format  :

  • Three movies with meaning
  • One sentence on the core meaning you take from it
  • Send me a link to a YouTube clip from the movie that speaks to that meaning

WARNING: Many of these include spoilers, so if you haven’t seen the movies…

This week all three are from me, and each of them I could have taken multiple meanings from. These are the meanings from each of them that resonate for me right now.

Unbreakable (2000)

“What if Superman was here on earth and didn’t know he was Superman” ~Quentin Tarantino

To me, the lesson of this movie is that we all have power and abilities we don’t own, and some of this we consciously or evenly unconsciously disown. Personally, I love seeing untapped potential in others and supporting them to unleash it.

I won’t give a plot spoiler video, this is simply Tarantino, himself a master filmmaker, giving a short review of what he considers one of the masterpieces of our time. I agree, Quentin.

Dead Poet’s Society (1989)

“Believing in others is one of the most powerful gifts we can give” ~ umm.. “me”

In this scene, the power of the belief shown in the student has him believe in himself and unleash his “barbaric YAWP!” and more.

So many wonderful moments of leadership and humility and belief in this movie!

Groundhog Day (1993)

“The Universe will keep giving you the same lessons, over and over again, until you choose to learn from them” ~ Ed Percival

Wildly entertaining, Bill Murray at his best, and also a lesson in the power of abundance.

Books I Love – Reinventing Organisations by Frederic Laloux

reinventing organisations

Reinventing Organisations (2014)

In leading businesses from the late 90s onwards, I used a number of those businesses across various sizes, industries, countries as “petrie dishes” to experiment with my growing sense of what authentic, purposeful and caring leadership could bring in service of all of our futures. I saw notable commercial success in “dollars and cents” as well as many life-changing moments small and large.

For many years, I’ve felt that the “command and control” way of leading, from hierarchies, the leader as an all-knowing expert was finished. Time for new paradigms of leadership and organisations. No more cultural disconnects of “do as I say, not as I do”, no more leading from fear and the stick, but instead from abundance.

Like many of my readers, I devour knowledge. I am insatiably curious and always looking to learn, explore, pose new puzzles, find answers. 

In early 2014, then, one book came out that had me say “THIS IS IT!“, and that book is Reinventing Organisations by Frederic Laloux. I truly believe this seminal book will be studied and used for decades to come in transforming the way we live, work and lead! (more…)

Leadership and Resilience

“If you want to be resilient, find the right amount of generosity and authenticity and grit.” 

This from Adam Grant, author of Give and Take and a featured Paradigm Smasher on this site, in a commencement speech he gave this year. When Adam gave this speech in May 2017, he and Sheryl Sandberg had just published Option B, a book centred around resilience. In Give and Take, he talks about how the most successful leaders are “Givers”, and at the same time they set boundaries, they find a balance.

It is key to recognise that, despite the typical desire of “Givers” to be loved, it is dangerous and ineffective if they (ok “we”, I hold a mirror up to myself on this one!) allow themselves to become a “doormat”, to focus too much on pleasing people by giving without consideration for self. Giving without limits can create burnout, or, to be clearer and more direct, mental distress and mental health trauma. (more…)

This might work – flying close to the sun

Five years ago, Seth Godin published the Icarus Deception, his most personal, and, I would argue, most impactful work.

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Actually, he really published it over six months earlier, when he wrote a blog called “this might work” in which he launched a Kickstarter to crowdfund the publication. I was one of the many disciples who made it a massively successful Kickstarter and turned “might” into “did”. This did work.

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How do we know what we know? Posing Puzzles

How do we know what we know? Posing Puzzles.

Triangulated me, courtesy of Polyshaper

A few weeks ago I wrote “How do we know what we know ?” and said I’d let this sit with me and marinate my thoughts a little around Epistemology , or “the study of the nature and scope of knowledge and justified belief”.

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Movies with meaning 3

{a weekly series – welcome guest contributions such as “Movies with Meaning 2“, a guest contribution from a twitter conversation with my friend Jacob Aldridge. This week some other contributors from Twitter too. Do share your ideas and share on Twitter too}

A reminder of our format  :

  • Three movies with meaning
  • One sentence on the core meaning you take from it
  • Send me a link to a YouTube clip from the movie that speaks to that meaning

WARNING: Many of these include spoilers, so if you haven’t seen the movies…

So, here we go for this week:

Interstellar (2014)

“about time and making the most of it” ~ anonymous

After Cooper wastes a few short hours on a watery planet with an immense gravitational field, the relativity of time means he has lost decades. He gets back to the spacecraft and feels the enormity of losing 23 years as he watches the messages from his family.

Make the most of our time. Never settle.

To Kill a Mockingbird (1962) :

 @MickPuck : “racism is s***e”

The movie of the book every child in Britain read at school in my era. Beautifully concise meaning in the movie from one of my musical heroes.

Horton Hears a Who (2008) :

@MarlaDukharan: “vested interests & deeply entrenched norms/ societal structures can only temporarily stall genuine progress. Small is still important!”

{Tom: “a person’s a person, no matter how small” Equality respects differences. }

Books I Love – Give and Take by Adam Grant

Adam Grant: Give and Take

Recently I wrote a post called “What do you do ?“, where I voiced some frustration at the emptiness of the energy behind the question people always ask in London when they meet someone for the first time.

Contemplating this, I realised that “what I do” is look for ways to help others. I have interesting conversations with interesting people, explore, flow, and always look to find some way to be of value to them, whether it is by co-creating with them, or perhaps by connecting or introducing them to an idea, person, concept, story or simply a book.

Sometimes after I explain this, people look, then ask again: “yes, but what do you DO?”, meaning what do I do to earn money in the world and how do you go about it.

That one I find more difficult. Yes, I work 1:1 with leaders as a sounding board, and currently I’m super excited to be launching a peer group to scale that further than the 1:1. However, where do those people come from? That is where people can get confused. You see, I simply go out in the world looking to help people and everything seem to work out from there.

This seems to intrigue people, so then I remembered the book “Give and Take” by Adam Grant and have been recommending it often!

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Favourite quote – Our deepest fear

Fealess is having fear but jumping anyway

Yesterday I wrote about flipping procrastination and fear into growth.

This reminded me of probably my favourite quote of all time. Given how many quotes I love, the fact that this one stands above all others says a lot to and about me.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~ Marianne Williamson

Your playing small does not serve the world…

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Flip procrastination and fear to growth

Star Wars Yoda Meme: The Procrastination is Strong in this one.

Ok, ok, so I prefer “Do, or do not, there is no try”. However, though I aspire to be Yoda-like, sometimes my humanity takes the form of procrastination.

I don’t write every day for the daily posts here, I post every day. Big difference. I reserve time for writing. When I am in flow it is wonderful, sometimes sitting for hours and writing 4, 6, even as many as 8 posts at one time. Forgetting to eat, realising I’m sitting in the dark, totally in “Flow”.

The thing is, sometimes I get deep into procrastination too, even though I am well past the “30 days to make a habit” stage of daily posting. As the saying goes “why put something off today that you can put off until tomorrow”.

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Seth Godin repost: Two kinds of practice

I am inspired by many leaders in areas of life, and one of them is absolutely Seth Godin, who recently hit the milestone of posting 7,000 days in a row. Take that in for a moment.

He is such a leader in so many ways, with so many of the terms he has coined entering into our language as leaders, as well as marketers and entrepreneurs.

Some of you may not know of him, so though I won’t often simply repost something in entirety, I just saw this post from Seth the day after I both wrote about failure as a necessity for growth, as well as talked about it on a podcast. This post from Seth is a perfect addendum.

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Loss of Control and Growth

loss of control Step Forward Into Growth Abraham Maslow

Bravery is a big word for me, and something I read today got me thinking about pendulum swings “from control to loss of control” and how such swings can elevate one forwards if we allow ourselves to stay in the discomfort of feeling “loss of control”.

My Linked In profile says I am a “Sounding Board for brave leaders choosing transformative change”. Holding a mirror up to myself I am always looking to keep bravely transforming myself. Being static holds no appeal to me. And yet..sometimes “loss of control” feels really uncomfortable. Sometimes I don’t feel that brave. Yes, even me, I’m a human too.

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Elite lessons: Katie Ledecky (aka The GOAT)

Elite lessons series: I have spent much of my life fascinated by elite performance, with a focus on studying elite athletes and elite leaders and what makes them different, a well as what elite performers can learn from others in different fields.

Katie Ledecky: THE “Goat”

My sons introduced me to the term “Goat”, meaning “Greatest of all Time”. A great and fun conversation that can go within and across sports, from Michael Jordan, Wayne Gretzky, Pele and many more.

For those who follow the sport of swimming though, the goat is the great Katie Ledecky.

Yes, with Michael Phelps in consideration, to call her THE “Goat” means she is quite astonishing, beyond description. Yes. She simply is.

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